"Most relationship problems aren't about the argument. They're about what the argument is standing in for."

The most common thing I see in couples is that they can't find the words to relay what they actually need, so they fight because they feel misunderstood, or they avoid the conversation entirely. Both of those paths lead to the same place.

What makes couples work actually work is a radical willingness to look at your own contributions to the mess, even if you're only 2% at fault. Most people come in ready to talk about the other person. The work tends to start when they get curious about themselves.

The goal isn't agreement. It's understanding, which tends to be more useful and considerably harder to reach.

Who this is for

Couples stuck in the same pattern they've been in for years

Couples who avoid conflict until it becomes a crisis

Couples navigating a specific event or significant change

Families adjusting to a major transition

Families where cultural expectations are creating friction between generations

What we work on

Common areas

Recurring conflict

The argument that keeps arriving in different clothes. Understanding the pattern underneath it is more useful than winning the argument, though most people come in hoping to do both.

Communication breakdown

When people are speaking but nothing is landing. Usually a signal that something else needs to be said first, something that's easier to skip over than to name.

Life transitions together

Big changes affect everyone differently. What one person finds exciting, another finds destabilising. That gap is worth bridging before it becomes a division.

Trust and repair

After something has happened that changed things. Repair is possible, but it takes a different kind of conversation than the one most people know how to have.

Cultural and intergenerational dynamics

When different backgrounds, values, or generations are in the room together, things that look like simple disagreements are often carrying a lot more weight. I've worked with families where the cultural oppositions seemed completely incompatible. The work is finding how both can exist, not choosing between them.

Drifting apart

Not dramatic, just a quiet sense that something has shifted and you're not sure when. This is often the most useful time to come in, because there's still something to work with.

How it works

What couples and family sessions look like

01

A free call first

20 minutes to figure out whether this is the right fit. You can come together or one person can reach out first. Either works.

02

Understanding the dynamic

Early sessions are about getting a clear picture of what's actually happening, not just what each person thinks is happening. Those can be different things.

03

Working through it

Sessions are 50 minutes, online via Jane App. Frequency depends on what you're working on. Some couples come for a defined period; some continue longer. We work that out together.

Session fees

$200 / 50 min

Couples and family sessions. Extended sessions (80 min) available at $200.

Many extended health insurance and benefits plans cover Registered Psychotherapist services. Check with your provider directly. Coverage varies by plan.

Free first call

20 minutes, no cost. A chance to ask questions, get a sense of how this works, and figure out whether couples or family psychotherapy is the right fit right now.

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Ready to bring this into a room?

Start with the free call. You can both join, or just one of you can reach out first to get a sense of how it works.

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